Monday, November 23, 2015

Should you give kids just a sip?

I’m very happy to be part of #TalkEarly’s blogger team this year, working to encourage families to have a lifetime of open and honest conversations with their kids about alcohol and making healthy choices.

The holidays are officially upon us and with that time comes entertaining, parties, and the toasting of all we have to be grateful for. For a lot of families, including mine, it may also be a time of year where our kids see us drinking socially more than we normally do. Upon watching the adults in their life enjoy themselves with a drink and friends or seeing champagne fizzle in a  glass, it may lead to the following question:

Can I have a sip?

I’ve always said yes, as my desire was to de-mystify alcohol and drinking and be as transparent as possible with my kids about all of it. It’s also what my parents did with me. And what their parents did with them. My mom and dad also spent time in Europe right before I was born and they felt that the laid-back, no-nonsense attitude towards drinking they saw there (particularly in regards to kids and young people) made a lot of sense. 

Friday, November 20, 2015

Vegetable Soup

Today would have been my grandmother's birthday, so to honor her memory I made her delicious vegetable soup last night and told this story to my kids.
Once, back in the olden days (sometime in 2003), we went to see Grandmom Joyce at her tiny, perfectly clean house in Trenton, NJ. My uncle and my cousin were also there visiting. They're both vegetarians so when we asked what was for lunch, Grandmom Joyce said: "vegetable soup". When we sat down to eat, it was clear that the soup had about 6 pounds of delicious, tender pot roast in it. My uncle looked confused.

Monday, November 9, 2015

The ongoing struggle w Imposter Syndrome

I originally wrote this in 2010 and came across it today. I really needed to read it. My life has changed a lot in the past five years, but for bette or worse,  I'm still the same. So I updated this post to reflect my current reality in the hopes that someone else might feel better knowing they're not the only one out there pretending at life.

Ever since I was a kid, I've felt like a faker. A big phony, as Holden Caulfield would put it. And that feeling persists. Throughout my life, on the occasions that I’ve done well or had people praise me for something, one part of me has always sort of felt like: “Well thanks, but if you had any idea of what I was really like…”  Let's be honest - I'm not what I seem.

I've always been awkward like that. I wore the wrong clothes, and I always said something completely random that made people wonder if I'd recently suffered some sort of head trauma.  I tried too hard when that wasn't cool, and I didn't care when I was supposed to.

Monday, September 14, 2015

Help Homeless Kids Have A Great Halloween!

Hi everyone! 

My 12 year old daughter is doing a really great Girl Scout Silver Award project. She's been working for months on a Halloween party for the children at the Katherine K Hanley Family Shelter in Fairfax, VA. The kids will be able to "shop" for costumes for Halloween and she hopes to have enough left over to create a permanent dress-up/creative play area at the shelter. She did some research and found that creative play helps all kids develop and grow, but can be especially helpful for kids who have experienced trauma. 

If you have any gently used costumes you would like to donate, please consider sending them to this awesome project. 

If you live locally (around DC or Northern Virginia) and would like to volunteer at the event, that would AWESOME! Here's the sign-up genius to learn more:

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Saturday, September 5, 2015

A Eulogy for My Grandmother

My grandmother passed away this afternoon. The last few months of her life she was very ill and sadly, her family and dear friend were in conflict around her, as sometimes grief and fear do not bring out the very best in people. I will not dwell on that. Her family loved her and now in her absence, we continue to love each other. 

She had a long life, spent entirely in Trenton, NJ, which (if you know Trenton) is an accomplishment in itself. She saw the world change so much in her 90 years and showed me that having fun and doing things your own way are not the providence of the young. She loved the Yankees and especially Derek Jeter. She was an amateur trash talker (Yankees fan, so obviously). She travelled, she gambled a lot, and won more than a normal person should. 

She would occasionally say things that were both inappropriate and hilarious (for example, anything that was a big mess she would refer to as a "Polish picnic"). She introduced me to really good Italian food, and taught me to cook the things that will bring me home for the rest of my life, no matter where I am.  

She conditionally baptized me as a Catholic against my parents' wishes and didn't really care that it bothered them. She was there for me as a little kid when I really, really needed her. I knew her well, but also not all, as her life was mystery to me (like the time she handed me a red formal dress and said: "Oh, I wore this to President Johnson's Inaugural Ball - take it."). 

She appreciated being comfortable and the value of home. She always insisted on having the best she could get. For some reason, she thought I was the best. As her favorite grandchild, she saw only the best in me (even when I did not deserve it) and the strength of her love allowed me to see her and know her at her very best. 

I will miss her, and always be grateful for her, and am so glad she is no longer suffering. I pray that she rests in peace and that for her sake, there is both casino gambling and major league baseball in heaven.

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