Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Lipstick Moments

I walked down the hall last week just in time to see my 11 year old daughter McGee pressing her lips together after putting on lipgloss. She was staring in the mirror and didn't see me, as everything but her reflection had just been tuned out. So, in that regard, she's completely like me. But in that two seconds, I saw my little girl do something she'll probably do almost every day of her grown up life.  And in the last two months, I've seen her change from being a little girl into something else entirely. 

So I've started watching them all a little more carefully. For those moments when something happens. And, for the first time, I turned my mad sharpie and newspaper skills to use on myself -- well, OK, and sorta my kids, too -- to see what happens in those moments. 
  • We got in the car and all three of them slammed their doors in quick succession. SLAM! SLAM! SLAM! And then looked at each other like they had made magic happen.
  • Happy, answering the phone, smiling and then saying "Hi Daddy!"
  • Lefty's face right after he jumped off the diving board, and right before he hit the water.
  • McGee teaching her brothers the Cotton Eyed Joe.
We were all in the bathroom the other day. Lefty was getting out of the shower, Happy was sitting on the potty and McGee was brushing her hair. Then Happy tooted, and they all burst out laughing. Despite the eye slammy aroma wafting out of the bathroom, we all stayed in the room together. Well, until Lefty kicked us out because he was getting all prune-y.
  • McLovin running down the driveway with the boys in the wagon...
  • McGee opening up the first page of the Twilight novella...I think she thought Edward was actually in the book. Like the real dude.
  • Lefty sitting on the kitchen counter with scrapes on his elbow and his leg from falling off the scooter...
I forget sometimes, because I'm folding laundry, or rushing them off to camp or school or karate or a sleepover or the grocery store, or fixing dinner, or threatening to come up there right now if you don't cut it out! But they do kinda awesome things in between all the times they're doing something that makes me wonder who on earth is mothering these childr--oh, right. That would be m.o.i.
  • Three Snoopy-as-a-Vultures on the way to the pediatrician...
  • Lefty -- tongue out -- right as he hits a baseball
  • They brush their teeth as a group. They brush their own, and then right at the end, they reach over and brush someone else's. It's gross, but funny...
A long time ago, I learned this great lesson about not losing your mind with your kids, because you're all they have in the world. That was my Target Moment. You all know all about it...

These are my Lipstick Moments.
  • Happy saying "read it again Mommy" even though he can't keep his eyes open...I love Tumble Bumble
  • McGee's face when her best friend whispered a secret in her ear...
  • Lefty "washing" his hair with vaseline...do you have any idea how hard that is to get out?


Your turn...and just in case you're not sure if any one moment can be meaningful, watch this:



xoxo, Kate

(c)Herding Turtles, Inc. 2009 - 2010

42 comments:

  1. This is what makes you gals awesome, the reason your blog is so perfect, that you know what is real and important, and how to make fun of it when it's just nonsense.

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  2. My moment: When watching a movie and a really sad part comes on and EVERYO?NE turns to look at me to see if I am crying. They care.

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  3. This is precious. And I would have to say J's face when he sees me arrive at daycare in the afternoon, drops what he's doing, blows me a kiss and then hits the ground with the fastest crawl on earth while laughing like a mad man until he reaches me.

    Best. Moments. Ever.

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  4. I love this post. It might be my favorite one yet.

    My most recent moment: Watching my son walk into kindergarten last week for the first time, all by himself. He got out of the car, put on his backpack and walked on it, and didn't look back.

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  5. This made me start thinking about certain moments in my life as well as how much my little ones have grown this summer (they're 3,2, and 11 months) and almost made cry. I was grumpy this morning after having to sleep in my three year olds bed with him (nightmares) because the bed hurts my back, then read this and thought about how that will one day be a distant precious memory of time with him.

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  6. mine will always be when my kid would run, full steam, into my arms to be lifted high...until the day he took me right out. He is thinking "football" now, and I can say that all players on the opposing team better watch out! another best was for years I would sing "fly me to the moon" with special mom lyrics, because I couldn't remember the right ones, and putting him to bed with that.

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  7. My youngest is now 8, but still thinks that eggs are MAGIC. The look on her face the moment I crack it open, tells me so. And how could you not LOVE that?

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  8. My 3 year old son, when he told me for the first time "Mommy, you very pretty". Which was just so completely awesome, and even awesomer that he chose my birthday to do it. That was the exact moment he completed wrapping me around his little finger. Until I had to tell him later to get his finger out of his nose and he blew a raspberry at me.

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  9. The video made me sniffle a bit. My moment today...my almost-one-year-old (tomorrow, yikes!) took three steps for the first time, fell on his butt, and just looked at me with such WONDER in his eyes...then giggled and got up to do it again. Makes you wish you could see it all through a child's eyes.

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  10. Making cookies with my three-year old. Cracking the eggs in the bowl, and having him look up at me with wondermnet and all smiles: "Mamma, you hatched it!!"

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  11. watching my 11 year old daughter and her friends spinning around out on the grass, just for the sheer joy of it. I stood inside and took it in, knowing it was probably the last summer they would be un-selfconscious enough to do it. A moment at the edge of childhood.

    That was 14 years ago.

    Whenever I see preteen girls of a certain age doing this, I always tell their mom's to drink it in ... it's probably the last time you'll see it.

    Now, I spin around on the grass with my grandaughter, just for the joy of it :)

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  12. My Moment was just yesterday. My 10 1/2 month old son is learning to take his first steps on his own. The pride and sheer joy his sisters (almost 4)get every time he trys is just pricless. It's amaizing to me to see them lift eachother up like that from such a young age.

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  13. Thank you so much for the video & for reminding me to take a deep breath and look around every day. I love you guys!

    xo- Dag

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  14. This is dirty pool, lady. This made me cry. My lipstick moments always break my heart because I know how fleeting they are.

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  15. I love the look on my 6-month-old's face when I pick her up after a long day at work. And when I get her up in the morning...

    I'm so glad that you reminded us to cherish these moments. My best friend's niece just passed away because of swift and rare case of meningitis. I can't stop thinking about all the moments that her parents will not get to enjoy...

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  16. I had a "moment" just yesterday when my 8 year old asked me to pick him up. I knew as I stood there, back aching, that one of these times will be the last before he's too big. I didn't want to put him down.

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  17. Loved it! I started keeping a notebook around and *trying* to write in it every night something the kids said or did that day. I realized they were growing up too fast and I was forgetting way too much (mommy brain and all). Loved the video too.

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  18. I have been asking my 20 month old twins "where is your belly?" and then laughing when they pick their shirts up. The other day, I was laying on the floor and they started "attacking" me with tickles. Then, they started lifting my shirt and doing raspberries on my belly, saying the word belly the whole time.
    I laughed so hard my stomache actually hurt. It was wonderful.

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  19. Perfect timing. : ) Mine happened just last night. My 4-month-old was being fussy, so I threw her and my 6 1/2 year old in the car and headed to Target. It was like my son *knew* I was having a bad day and he was being *so* incredibly helpful. He kept telling me, "Tell me what you want and I'll get it for you from the shelf." He didn't even complain when we went to the baby section. I was looking at baby clothes and he actually asked if we were going over to the other baby aisles as well.

    It was either a super sweet "lipstick moment" or he just wanted the Kidz Bop 18 CD that I let him pick out. Mmmm...

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  20. This post should come with a warning...don't read this if you're a hormonal pregnant lady! (I'm sitting at work trying to wipe my eyes and control the hormonal sobs!).

    (Hmmm, perhaps I shouldn't be reading blogs while at work!?)

    Still...a great post (though my co-workers may be wondering what kind of horrible things you've said/done to make me cry)!

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  21. Ditto to the warning for the hormonal pregnant women. This post made me cry...also reminded me of the incredible little people I've been blessed with and inspired me to write some of the things that they're doing down so I'll remember them later. Thanks so much for the reminder. :-)

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  22. I usually laugh until I cry reading your blog. Today it is just cry. Shame on me for complaining about my day and THANK YOU for reminding me that every day is filled with thousands of moments that are all special like today watching my 20 month old figure out the physics of standing on one leg or feeling my only 13 days left baby bump roll around as if she's also trying to figure out how to get out. Thank you, even yesser, thank you.

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  23. My moment was the other night while I was walking my 11 month old around the lounge room, I let go of his hands and he stood there all by himself for the first time. He was standing there, knee's half bent, arms out looking at me with complete shock and wonder in his eyes, laughing hysterically =D

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  24. ok my facebook status was going to read : dares someone to ask how my day was! but i'll just sit here and cry instead :)

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  25. One of my best moments: I give my ill FIL an injection every evening and my 3 year old normally watches "Papa" get his "pokin'". Two nights ago I rubbed the alcohol swab on his belly and he began to tense in anticipation, Lily took his hand in hers and said "I'm here Papa". I cry just thinking about it.

    Thanks for reminding me to stop and enjoy the moment.

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  26. Can't speak from the Mommy side of things yet (give me another couple of months), but having been the kid that glued her eye shut and made her hair super-shiny with Vaseline, I offer you this: Oatmeal. My mom washed my hair something like 20 times with shampoo before calling her mother in tearful frustration. Grandma suggested oatmeal (I assume dry). Worked like a damn charm.

    Now, to prepare the pen and paper for babyhood moment documentation...

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  27. Wow. Made me think of many. 4.16.05, 3pm, when my husband and were officially husband and wife, and I was officially a stepmom. 4.7.09 a little after 2pm in the afternoon when my water broke, 9 weeks before my due date and I realized that these twins were coming early and was so scared. 4.11.09 around 4pm, leaving the hospital in tears from having to leave my babies behind. 5.1.09 at about 8pm, bringing my son home from NICU, and 5.6.09, in a horrible thunderstorm about 8pm, driving my daughter home from NICU. 8.4.10, watching my son take his first unassisted steps to me. Amazing lipstick moments...and what a nice way to think about them! Thanks for this blog, ladies, truly.

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  28. Love, love, LOVE. Just when I think you gals can't possibly make me laugh any harder, you make me cry.

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  29. Loved this. Made me remember where my perspective should be. My baby is about to turn a year old and I won't be having anymore. These moments are so very special! Thank you!

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  30. A far as the vaseline as shampoo incident, I can imagine how hard it would be. My son did not use vaseline, he decided to paint himself from head to toe....hair included with Vicks vapor rub. impossible to get out and the smell that comes with it! Oh and don't forget not to get it in anyones eyes. 4 baths...at least 2 with Dawn (you know it's supposed to cut grease)...we got most of it out.

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  31. My little girl, who is 3, likes to say that the eggs are dancing when I separate them.
    Or, walking past a store window, she'll say, Mama, those shoes are pretty, do you want to buy some?
    I really wish I had written stuff down all along...

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  32. OK so my kids have been in school for weeks but I am just now able to resurface and catch up on your posts and this one is so awesome. I had a precious moment the other day when I was dropping my Kindergartner off at school (she's in the afternoon.) A group of kids were coming down the hall for lunch. They all looked so big and I was sure they were 7th graders at least. Until I saw my son the 5th grader in with the mix! How did he get so big?! *sniff sniff* And then he saw me and his face lit up and he said "Mom!" and came over and let me hug him. I am sure this will probably be the last time I get a joyful reaction to my surprise visit, but for right now he is still my little boy who still loves his Mom(my). (Oh and I totally hugged him AND kissed his head because I am his mom and I get to do that regardless of who is around! Just wait 'til his first day of high school muah-ha-ha-ha!)

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  33. Since my daughter turned one, I have started a journal of moments. I only manage to write in it about twice a month... but I know it will still be something to cherish when she is older. Those moments are what it is all about. That's why I have been putting off all the 'to do-s' and spending as much waking time with her just spending time and playing. I feel like I've been missing so much since I went back to work. Those moments are what make it worthwhile and are what get me through all the difficulty that is being a mom.

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  34. My moment? When I get my 21 mo old out of the bathtub and she is all wrapped up in her towel and she tucks her wet little head into my neck and hugs me as tight as she can and will. not. let. go. I sit there getting wet from her little arms and legs and feel the happiest I've ever felt.

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  35. My moment was the other day, my dad asked my daughter "Kinsey, where's Momma?" she looked right at me and smiled, it made me tear up, I am tearing up now just thinking about it! As a first time mom, everyone can tell you about all these moments, but you never know what they'll feel like until you experience them!

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  36. My moments? When my 2-yr old daughter told me her plan to deal with storms: "Leave my room, go to your room, open the door, and lie on your belly where it's safe. WE can watch the storms together." And when my 4-yr old son made me a birthday card that I can look at "any time you're sad and feel happy". I try to remember these moments when they're driving me nuts because I know they won't last.

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  37. Love the video! One of my many moments... my then 17 year old son was going out for the night, his friends waiting in the driveway, honking for him to hurry up, and he runs back because his little sisters and brother (4 years old and twins 2 years old) are standing on the steps waving goodbye and they want a hug and kiss before he leaves.

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  38. My moment: yesterday my 2.5 year old daughter, who had been silent, says "Mommy? You're the best." And smiled.

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