- “No kids at playgroups who are sick or recently were sick or look like they might be getting sick.” (OK, so I guess I won’t be seeing you from October-April. Awesome.)
- “All events should be void of ‘Mama-Drama’”.
- Why Any Amount of TV Will Rot Your Child’s Brain
So I did eventually make my Mommy Friends. At my second or third Mom’s Group playgroup there was a mom named Heather whose son is the same age as my daughter. I was instantly drawn to her because she was humbly gathering advice from everyone on how to get her 8 month-old to sleep through the night. Her face was distressed and I could hear her voice catching in her throat as she talked to me about how she just didn’t know what to do anymore. Her son would only nap in a moving stroller and he wasn’t sleeping at night for more than two hours at a time. She was just.so.tired. So we started talking and the questions came rolling out of her. Was I getting any sleep? Was my baby teething, too? How long was I going to breastfeed? Did I miss being at work? Was it supposed to be this hard? I felt like she had climbed in my head and was sorting through all the crazy. Ah, a kindred spirit!
Even today, a couple years and another baby later, she is my go-to playmate, coffee colleague and advisor for all major parenting struggles. I pretty much hit the jackpot with Heather because not only is she all kinds of awesome, she had already made two other kick-ass mommy friends so I got three sane friends by only meeting one. At long last I found the Kate to my Lydia, or the Lydia to my Kate, and this job has been less of a struggle ever since. (Stop getting all misty, you two…)
And wouldn’t you know it…I made my mommy friend in a fairly organic way! We met, we shared a look of desperation, and we started a friendship free of judgment. No stalking, no overpriced classes, and no Mama Drama, for real.
Now if I could just work on that clean shirt thing…
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