Tuesday, October 12, 2010

What Part of "DON'T MESS WITH KIDS" Don't You Understand?!

I should warn you.  We don't truly "rant" very much around here, despite our name.  This post isn't funny.  Because I don't feel funny right now.  I feel stabby. 

Do you see this sweet little girl?  You may have read about her.  Her name is Kathleen Edward, she lives in Michigan and she's 7.  She's the same age as my oldest daughter.  Kathleen is dying of the same degenerative brain disease that killed her mother Lauren last year (Huntingdon's Disease).  In recent days, Kathleen has been the recipient of a shopping spree, candlelight vigils and myriad shows of support. Not because she's dying - but because her adult neighbor, Jennifer Petkov (herself a mother of two) had so viciously bullied her.

These are some of the things that Jennifer Petkov-- a supposed grown up -- did to a dying seven year old who had just lost her mother:
  • Posted images of her dead mother's face on a corpse being embraced by the grim reaper on Facebook.
  • Posted an image of Kathleen's little face on a set of crossbones.
  • Painted her pick-up truck (with her delightful hubby) black and built a coffin to display in the bed of the truck so they could drive it up and down the street where little Kathleen lives.
  • Covered their front yard with tombstones and claimed they were just Halloween decorations a few weeks early.
  • And told Kathleen, "I can't wait until you die".
Why?  Why would anyone do something so horrible?  Apparently, Jennifer Petkov didn't appreciate that the girl's grandmother once took too long to return a text message.  The grandmother, named Rebecca Rose, was apparently not prompt enough in responding to a request for Jennifer's daughters to come bounce in a bouncy house on her lawn.

Don't believe me?  See for yourself.

This woman tormented a dying child and her family because she enjoyed the personal satisfaction it gave her.  Because it made her feel good to know that she was upsetting the girl's grandmother - rubbing her ass raw.  A delicate turn of phrase from a delicate flower.  Seriously?  And then twenty-four hours later, she was completely remorseful?  I have no words.  There is only Maude.



Thank you, Maude.  I know you feel as I do.  I know you'd hold my purse while I rub her ass raw - with my powerful and indignant fists of fury (okay, that sounds gross and unsanitary, but you get the point).  And when it was good and raw, I would buy up all the Desitin in the tri-county area leaving her unable to relieve the discomfort.  Actually, this would all occur metaphorically and not literally so I probably wouldn't even have to buy all that diaper cream, but just typing that made me feel better.

It is too much for me to take.  For the past forty minutes, I've been having these Quentin Tarantino-style imaginings of me and Kate flying to Detroit, renting a big-ass muscle car like an orange Camaro or something and driving to this woman's house and roundhouse kicking her in the face while Kate cracks her knuckles, sharpens the pointy tips of her stilettos and nods. 

But this isn't a movie...  And its not a joke.  And real people were damaged.

I am not objective, and I admit it.  One of my kids was bullied by an adult.  It was nothing this extreme. I stood up for my child, as did his school and his teacher.  It's been almost two years.  I've forgiven, not because anyone asked for forgiveness or acknowledged their wrong-doing.  But because I needed to let go of my anger or lose my schmidt for good.  And because of God.  But just when I think I'm over it - something happens and I get all flushed and angry again.  Last month, someone kicked my stroller with my child in it, because we wouldn't get out of her way fast enough.

I now subscribe to the following belief: Adults who are good feel an instinct to protect children and those beings who are weaker than they are. Adults who feel no such compulsion are bad.  Evil, really.  Why are there so many bad ones?  I am so mad right now that I want to set a fire and run into the forest and do an angry dance.  But I'm also incredibly sad.  How can this be?  How can all of this cruelty be allowed?  I need to pause for some serious ugly crying while I think about this poor, motherless girl and all the children who have been bullied to death.

This is me sobbing.  This is me taking a shot.

You know what snaps me out of it? The thought of that she-devil Jennifer Pevcot (I can't spell her name now) lighting a candle on her porch for the little girl that she tormented and wished dead.  Then I get all stabby again.  I need to do some deep breathing or yoga or something.  I need to try and process this and let go of some of my crazy.  Quite clearly, crazy and pissed off are not the answer to this particular problem.    

Because I'm having whackadoodle thoughts. Like I want Taco Bell to set up a charity for her, whereby everyone who is pissed off about this can go into one of their fine establishments and kick a life-sized cardboard cut-out of Jennifer Petco in the taco and, for every taco shattered by our righteous fury, they will donate a dollar to stop snitches from being evil to children.

Help me.  I want to understand what would make a mother of two daughters do this.  I look at my daughters and my son.  I watch them walk out my door and I am gripped by The Fear.  I read these stories of bullying and I am burning with The Rage.  I have a serious problem with The Capitalization of Emotions.  Please help me learn to live with the knowledge that there are Jennifer Petcos everywhere.  How do I protect my children from this?  How do I keep my sanity? 

My kids are safely tucked in and sleeping.  I'll be drinking.  And hoping the morning brings good news.
Like that Kathleen is cured, won the lottery, and hired a big green Lou Ferrigno to bring the red you-know-what to anyone who is mean to another kid.  And if the kid is sick, she can hire me. For free. 

xo, Lydia
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Good morning. I woke up to find that lots of people had read this post. Whew... Thank you for the comments that are helping me to wrap my head around this.  Sadly, it's the morning and Kathleen isn't cured and the Hulk still hasn't shown up.  Also, without the benefit of two ounces of single malt Scotch, I should say I'm thinking somewhat more clearly.  I should also say that I'm not entirely proud of last night's temper tantrum - the advocation of organized taco kicking (even for charity) is not a mature, well-measured response. 

I have a friend who can always be counted upon to say what I need to hear to help me make sense of things.  One of his favorite maxims is "Where is the lesson?"  I've been trying to figure that out.  Your comments have really helped.  One thing's for sure, more anger isn't helpful.  But it feels so good.  That's what she said.  Literally.  That's what she said - The Rage felt good to her and it made her do awful things. 

I discussed bullying with my kids this morning and as usual, their perspective was awesome.  As he always does, my five-year-old son quoted Star Wars:

        "Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in her..."

So do I.  The world needs less fear, less anger, less hate, less suffering.  If the moms of the word can't be depended upon to do everything possible to make that happen - who can?

xo, Lydia

(c)Herding Turtles, Inc. 2009 - 2010

94 comments:

  1. I think that lady must have some sort of mental illness. Why would anyone do such things to anyone, much less a motherless little girl who also is going to die like her mother did. WTF?

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  2. UNFUCKINGBELIEVABLE. Why does it always seem that the generally good people are the ones that are infertile? Or get cancer? Or have a child with a terminal illness? Why is it that ASSHOLES like this woman can pop kids out left and right when they obviously have NO HEART WITH WHICH TO LOVE!

    I'm drinking too. This world has got to get better b/c I can't imagine it getting any worse.

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  3. Somehow a barking dog and annoying boys across the street pale into insignificance ... what a sad miserable woman she has to be to behave this way, hope that the town doesn't turn on her - AND her two little girls.
    Shall we get a big ol' pick up, drive cross country and show her a little bullying of our own?

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  4. Wow. I had not heard this, but I am furious too. And so sad. That poor little girl. Bullying is traumatic enough, but when an adult does it what is a child to think? They are supposed to trust adults. I imagine that it really would scar a kid to go through that anyway, but a dying child who lost her mother???? There is no punishment wretched enough for Jennifer Puto-whatever (yes, I know what that is Spanish for).

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  5. There are no words. This makes me ill. That woman deserves so much more than a friendly kick in the taco...

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  6. There is a special place in Hell for that woman.. the vileness that is that woman will come back to her.

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  7. that woman is sick, really.. most of the world , thanks haven, is a little more sane. I agree with you. Any adult that doesn't have the instinct to protect a kid..is just not human enough and something is pretty wrong with them..

    Just so you know Most of the stuff organized to help the girl was done through reddit.com

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  8. There are no words. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpYeekQkAdc&ob=av3e

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  9. HOLY CRAP! What kind of crazy is that - and she didn't even try to look sorry when she was "apologizing"! AHHH makes me so so so mad! Who would do something like that? And they put in so much effort - they need to find something better to do with their time than building and spray painting coffins. WTF

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  10. We don't have a Taco Bell where I live, ut I would pack up my family to travel to one to support your proposed taco kicking charity. It gets my vote.

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  11. How the hell can people be so downright EVIL. This poor child is dying, why make her time left a living hell because you have a bug up your ass over something so trivial? There is a spot in hell waiting for that woman.

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  12. People that were a-holes as kids grow up into big giant a-holes and become old people a-holes. It is sad but true. That woman is OBVIOUSLY MENTALLY ILL and should be on meds or locked in a home where she can bully the soft padded walls. I'm with you sister- orange camero and all.

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  13. This has the mama bear in me all kinds of angry. I cannot believe the hate spouted by this woman (or that she believes it can be suddenly undone by a lame-ass apology)

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  14. Law hasn't caught up with cyber SH@(. that we can do in the blink of an eye to anyone.... Evil to children is the same evil that allows groups to poison female students in Afghanistan and deny water and food to children in way too many parts of the world. The United States may no longer be able to lead the world in manufacturing but in my opinion we need to be leaders on so many other ways....

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  15. That is absolutely insane. This woman has to be psycho.
    There's been a huge emphasis on hate crimes and bullying lately. Things that were born from ignorance and fear of other people "different" from us. That in itself is terrible. A stain on our nation even. Someone maliciously bullying an innocent child over some petty "whatever" is disgusting and I think she deserves to rot in jail and burn in hell. Just sayin.

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  16. I have no words, other than, I will help you kick her in the face or taco or wherever. People like this have no rights other than being beat down like they are trying to do to others. The biggest problem, it seems, there are no legal actions that can be taken. WTF???? Who are these people and how are they allowed to roam the earth? I could go off on a whole liberal tangent but I won't....She's just wrong, and lets hope karma takes over....

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  17. I read that this story made even the folks over at 4Chan mobilize to make this woman's life a living hell. You don't want to anger 4Chan. They will make your life both online and offline unbearable. That is the only reason she apologized, she wanted to stop them from harassing her. Seems she did not like a taste of her own medicine. Nasty, horrible, evil creature.

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  18. When I first heard this story last week, I was so filled with rage and sadness and disbelief and a;ioghuabfg;ujbanf;hjn;ajfhb that I thought I'd explode. I spent a very long time on the internet watching the news clips. I had to post it on my facebook so I could be united with others in my outrage. It hurts me to the core that this story is true. I fear that this woman's children are going to grow up in her image and will perpetuate this kind of hate. If I were the sort who prayed, I'd pray that these kids have a chance of breaking this cycle.

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  19. Lydia~
    As a Mom, I am in complete agreement. If this wench was in the same time zone as my daughter I would be homicidal, then explain calmly to the police officers how I was simply providing a public service.
    The only solace I can find is this: First- Kathleen is clearly an Earthbound Angel, and I mean that with all sincerity. Children with horrific diseases who epitomize courage and grace are nothing short of Angels in my book.
    Second - monsters like Jennifer Petkov are moral wake up calls to the good and decent folk who need to be the vocal majority. This black hearted, monstrous bullying has reached epidemic levels, and it is going to take a unification of Mommies and Daddies to stop it.
    Jennifer Petkov is setting up her own kharma banquet...yes, I believe in that, too.
    If anyone knows true justice, it's God.

    She can light all the candles she wants, the phrase she's looking for is "too little, too late." *ding-ding* School's in for Jennifer Petkov. Time for the wench to learn a life long lesson.

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  20. Thank you SRMM - I love that song. And now whenever I hear it I will think of little Kathleen. Lydia, I am just so saddened by this. So utterly horrifically saddened. I will keep Kathleen and her family in my prayers... There is no excuse for what this lady did. NONE AT ALL. And no apology will ever make up for it. I will keep her daughters in my prayers as well. I am feeling that they need it.

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  21. "I apologize if you're hurt"???? What a "sincere" apology. She needs to grow her ass up.

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  22. Right now all I'm thinking is that I live in Ohio, and it's not far from Michigan. I'm very tempted to get in my car and drive there, just to kick Jennifer Petkov IN THE FACE. Maybe cut out her tongue and break her fingers. Yes. Lovely. People like her are the reason we experience The Fear. My kids started school this year and I do not enjoy being gripped by The Fear every morning. Perhaps you and Kate should have taken Karate....

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  23. I was bullied by an adult when I was in first grade. It was the worst feeling/experience in the world. She was a parent of another girl in my grade. I did not know her daughter, but it did not matter. She accused me of things I had never said or done. She was a verbal abuser. Her daughter was overweight and she apparently thought it was a good idea to torment me to make her daughter feel better. Please believe in that I NEVER knew her daughter. We were only in the same grade. I guess I was just the lucky victim.
    Anyways, despite that terrible year and NEVER TELLING A SINGLE SOUL - I survived and as a teacher I despise and fight against bullying amongst my students, parents, and even teachers.
    Phew, felt good to get that out.

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  24. Maybe for a tap rehearsal Lydia and Kate can tap dance all over that bitch. And attach spikes to the shoes. Encore!!

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  25. That crazy neighbor obviously has mental issues, and so does her husband for putting up with all the bullsh*t. She obviously feels no power as an adult and has to take out her frustrations on a helpless child. I feel sorry for her own kids -- It must be hell having her for a mother.

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  26. It would be better that a millstone should be tied around her neck and she drown in the depths of the ocean. I believe that's what Christ said about those that offend His little ones. She is pure evil, and she will be held accountable by Gid for her vicious actions.

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  27. I'm thinkin road trip to show her that real mommies are not just loving, caring and protective of those who share their DNA, name or address but to all kids. And can also have a mean right-cross.

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  28. Special brand of evil there. But it speaks to our goodness that we cannot understand how she could do this. I don't EVER want to be the kind of person who can understand it.

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  29. So infinitely sad. I'm gonna pray for little Kathleen...her momma loved her and cherished her and that evil woman's children will never feel that kind of love.

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  30. I think this woman must be related to those Westboro Baptist people, you know the ones that protest at funerals and tell mourners their glad that their loved one died. There are no words for how these types and their self centered petty cruelness and heartless actions make me feel mostly it is an ominous growling sound and lots of fire and the mental image of their head all collectively popping so they can no longer inflict pain on others.

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  31. The supportive response to the little girl will do more than the damage inflicted by the neighbor. The more people who show that they care - the better ... and the best way to drive home to a woman who has a mean streak that she does not matter.

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  32. Children like Kathleen, angels on earth, should know nothing other than love and peace during their short time here. As the mom of a special-needs child, my heart simply dropped into my stomach when I heard about this. Every day I send my son off to school, trying to battle back the fear that today will be the day Alex gets jumped in the hallway for being different. Or made fun of because he doesn't talk the way everyone else does. Or knocked down because he doesn't understand what someone is saying to him. I worry about these things happening at school, but when a child is at home, they should be safe and protected from anything negative. Poor Kathleen and her grandmother don't even have any peace in their own home.
    Jennifer Petkov has screwed herself. Karma's a bitch, and I'd be willing to bet that her stupid little temper tantrum has yielded some NASTY results...which is probably why she's backpedaling and apologizing.
    But too little, too late. She's a sorry excuse for a human being, and if we're voting on methods of punishment, I say we jump her in an alley and shave her head. And then tattoo "D-Bag Snitch" in big bold letters on her forehead. Oh yeah, and follow up with that kick in the taco.

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  33. I feel so sorry for that little girl...

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  34. I can't believe that there's nothing that Law Enforcement can do to punish this B!tch. I live in Michigan and hadn't heard about this. Too much time on-line and not enough on the local news, I guess. This is more appalling than most of the other crap that is going on. I'm just stunned.
    physicsmom

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  35. Mr. Rogers tells children when there are bad things happening in the world, look for the helpers. People always come to help those in need (think Firemen and 9/11). Let's think of those wonderful people who came to that girls house to sing to her and show her love. And the world is watching as the Chilean miners are being rescued. There is still good in this world. We just have to pass it along so it takes over the bad.

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  36. Oh. No no no no. This woman needs a roundhouse kick to the BRAIN. What was she thinking?!

    Lydia, you asked how to protect your children from this...I think about this ALL the time. The only strategy I have so far is to teach my kids not to be a passive bystander in a bullying situation. The most recent research on bullying shows that bullies thrive on an audience and if even one person intervenes and sides with the victim it can often dissuade a bully from continuing. Not to mention that the victim will see that someone has his/her back and that does wonders for self-esteem and could prevent yet another tragic suicide down the line. My hope is that if my kids stick up for a victim then another kid will be inspired to do the same when mine are being bullied, too.

    This whole adults-bullying-kids thing is just sickening. They may be beyond help. Let's just hire Lou Ferrigno to open a can of fury on their asses.

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  37. First I've heard of this but here's my gut talking:
    This woman so obviously has demons, like real, swear to Maude demons, the ones cast out of Heaven, okay, They delight in what she is doing and whisper to her psyche that this gives her power and control and all the stuff she craves. They want her to be wicked so they can win her and by her actions, win others.
    On the same token though, we have free will, ordained by God and no one, not even a demon can make us do anything we do not want to do. She CHOOSES to listen to them and act on her own selfish, wicked desires.
    I don't think she's sorry, that would be a huge turnaround, one I think that would require some Holy Water or at least a mob attack of mommies on her a$$.
    Seriously, she enjoyed it, it was so over the top evil, she can't be remorseful, not that soon, she's just sorry she was caught and would still be doing this if she wasn't in the spotlight of evil personified.
    For the grandmother and child, this woman caused such cruelty and this can never be taken back. Grandma will always remember that time after her own daughter's death, when her granddaughter was dying herself, as the time the crazy neighbor stalked them with wickedness.

    I'm all about the taco campaign and any other ideas y'all have. I'm giving serious thought of having a dirty diaper campaign myself of dumping all of our nasties on her lawn to remind her of what we think of her.

    Pissed as Hell,
    Mamajulep

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  38. One mean, nasty, heartless bitch. TONS of loving neighbors coming out to tell that little girl, "We love you, and you do not deserve this." I hope she remembers them, and not the one. Because unfortunately, the one tends to stick out more.

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  39. Wow.

    I haven't been paying much attention to the news lately, but this story really is f*cked up.

    I actually feel as sorry for the kids of this crazy woman (and man) as I do for the little girl who is terminally ill. That little angel-on-earth has the support of many neighbors, friends, and her loving grandma. She will be in my prayers.

    Holy Schmidt, can you imagine having parents like this and the horror and embarassment they must go through? Kids don't get to choose their parents and I see alot of therapy in these kids' futures.

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  40. I so hate that this happens...it sickens me. I hate that anyone would have so much hate in their heart as this...and imagine, for just a second, how miserable a life that woman must live to have to get her kicks terrorizing a little girl...such a cryin shame...bless her heart (yeah, that's whuck in southern belle terms!)

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  41. I can't even see straight after watching this. This makes me so incredibly angry and scares the living sh*t out of me. I cannot believe this women has children. what is wrong with her????? you don't pick on kids and how would she feel if this were her kids and what kind of example is she setting. I'm sick to my stomach and all teary thinking abotut that poor little girl. Karma is a b*tch and I hope she comes and kicks that woman in the taco asap.

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  42. She is real sorry now that everyone wants to kill her. So not buying her apology. She should beware karma is a bitch.

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  43. Apology? That was no apology. That was a sincere, "hey now people are picking on me and since I want it to stop I am going to say I am sorry. I am scared myself now and people are threatening me with the same actions I took against a child and it frightens me so I think I will take a step back. I don't care if she lives or dies but I don't want people to pick on me!" Whine. Whine. Whine. That is all this is. This woman is a disgrace to motherhood, humankind and all things in the world.
    A special hell for her? Yeah, I think so.
    Sorry, I am so mad I am unable to continue.

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  44. I like your update, but I still want to punch her face.

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  45. You son, as usual, is way more wise and mature than the rest of us!! Oh, Star Wars, I should pay more attention to you!

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  46. BAMBAMBAMBAM!!!!!
    That is me kicking her in the taco.

    BAM!
    and that is a kick in the teeth.

    BAMMM!
    That is me driving my car into her garage door.

    Yup.
    --kate in Michigan

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  47. I did not know about this because I've had to stop watching the news. My heart just can't take it any more. But this? This is what is wrong with society. This "woman" is what is wrong with society. Her actions were hateful. And that word doesn't even do it justice.

    I'm all up in arms over here. I would totally fly to Michigan with you and camp out on her lawn and just give her the Maude every time she came outside.

    But it wouldn't change anything.

    And that is what makes me so terribly sad.

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  48. Maybe by saying this i'm lowering myself, but I wish I could spit in her face. I'd pay money to kick her and then spit in her face while she's down. And i'd have no regrets.

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  49. There was a woman in my neighborhood growing up who would pick on a kid who was a hemophiliac, threatening to prick and cut him because "he can't do anything about it, he can't afford to get hurt". Both boys were 13 at the time, and were arguing about a foul in a neighborhood basketball game one afternoon, when this woman came outside and punched the hemophiliac in the head. Yes. Punched. I, at 16, jumped up from where I was sidewalk-chalking with the younger kids and told her, in no uncertain terms, that if she ever touched him again I would kill her. I'm not proud of my reaction, and the kid was fine, and it turns out that she was on all sorts of drugs all along. No excuse though, for bullying kids.

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  50. I'm absolutely nauseous. What a rusty @%*t. With a capital C.

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  51. That woman is lucky my passport's expired. I have no problem with kicking her in the taco and working out whatever karmic retribution I would suffer at a later date. I'd take that for Kathleen. I have a bunch of kids of my own: one more to love and protect is no burden and I would surely kick the taco of anyone who messed with my own.

    You do NOT mess with little kids. The fact that she is being so mindbogglingly cruel to a dying, motherless child is .....there are no words.

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  52. It scares me enough to think of the bullying my kids might have to endure from other kids...but an ADULT, too?!? I totally agree, how can an adult not want to protect any and all children? To not just like your neighbour is one thing...but to actually bully a child just because you don't like the neighbour?? WTF is wrong with that person?!? And to go to such effort and extremes to bully a child...a sick child at that! I hope she is punished as much as she can be by the law... :(

    Grrrr! Now I am all momma bear and ranty too.. :( It's all so wrong... :(

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  53. You have a very smart boy Lydia! Hate and anger are so very dangerous. I do find interesting that she willingly (if not proudly) flaunted her anger and stupidity on the news and only after receiving threats towards herself did she find the need to apologize. I'm sure she is sorry... that she got caught and her actions have spread like wildfire across the nation. Here's hoping this helps other people put their anger into perspective and that they think before they act, especially when it comes to children.

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  54. Lydia while I respect your mature attitude about not kicking her in the Taco. I am still for it, as parents and adults there is a line that is not crossed. Messing with peoples childrens is clearly one of those lines. I am all in support of your taco kicking plan!! Thank you for being the caring wonderful person that you are!!!

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  55. We must be sharing a brain! After reading this and posting my comment, I added to the discussion with a little positive spin on my post today.
    http://mamajulep.blogspot.com/2010/10/culture-shock.html

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  56. How is it I live in a world where no one has kicked this woman's a$$ yet?

    And I read this after I read THIS
    http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/10/08/ohio-school-bullied-teens-dead-hand/

    this morning. I might need some Baileys in my coffee today.

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  57. Your last line says it all for me. "The world needs less fear, less anger, less hate, less suffering. If the moms of the word can't be depended upon to do everything possible to make that happen - who can?"

    Throughout history, it has always been the women who have the most access to children. A mother is her child's first teacher. We have the power to instill in our young ones the grace and compassion that will be needed in the uncertain future. Strive every day to foster understanding and and genuine care for others.

    Now go hug your littles ones!

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  58. I live in Michigan. And am going to be in the Detroit area next weekend... just sayin'. Grrrrrr.... I also know two sweet folks that have died of the same disease so this pisses me off even more...

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  59. This is completely unacceptable behavior. I also feel bad for this psycho's own children. They don't stand a chance with parents like that.

    And it will have to take more than an apology to make things right.

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  60. Sickening beyond belief or imagination.

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  61. Kay, my blood is actually boiling. I can't believe someone would do that for any reason, but a text message? Really? That is just SICK.

    So I thought about all the things I'd like to do to her, but that would be futile. So I decided to make a contribution to the Huntington foundation (or whoever does research on this awful disease- have to do a little research and find out) in Little Miss Psycho's name. It's the only good thing I could think of to do. And I sincerely hope the love keeps pouring in for this beautiful little girl. I wish I could give her a big hug.

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  62. This is pretty Polyanna of me, I know, but maybe - just maybe - seeing herself in the midst of her nastiness and anger as others saw her, on national TV, brought home to this woman just how ugly she was being.

    Very few people, even the monsters, go through life thinking of themselves as the bad guy; we all want to see ourselves as the hero. So maybe this woman was so caught up in her own drama and hurt feelings and, yes, fear (wise words from the little man, I feel) and anger...that she never took a step back to consider who she was hurting with her actions. Until her own face distorted with hatred and foul language toward a dying child who had just lost her mother was staring right back at her. Having all your comforting delusions stripped away so that you can see yourself for the monster you have become is not a pleasant moment. More than anything outward that could be done to you in retribution, that is the thing that will haunt your every step.

    It is possible to have a change of heart and true remorse overnight. I don't know how likely, but it is possible. I hope and pray, sincerely, that that is what happened for her. It doesn't justify her actions, and it doesn't erase them, but that is the only path I see for her redemption - and better now than later. She's going to need every last day she has left to make things right.

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  63. I read your original post last night....it got me bat-shit, spittin' cherries crazy mad. Woke up this morning... still pissed as hell. I'm in shock that an adult would behave this way. Wait... not shock... dismay, disgust, complete and total horror.... those are the ways to describe how I feel. I hope that this poor child is able to put it behind her, embrace the love of the community, friends and family around her and live what is left of her life knowing that she is loved.

    As for the crazy-bitch across the street..... there has got to be something that can be done to her, through the so called "justice system". Her "apology" was laughable.... just by looking in her eyes, you could tell she wasn't truly remorseful for her actions. The only thing she's sorry about is the fact that she got caught. Period.

    It's unfortunate that people like her exist in this world. Truly unfortunate. I will NOT stand for people treating children, of any age, poorly. It is our job as adults to protect our children. It's time we stand up and say enough is enough.

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  64. In her "defense," I don't think she thought about what she was doing to the girl. It sounds like she was doing this to get back at the grandma. And her craptastic husband went right along with it, so clearly another human being felt it was appropriate behavior.
    However, I don't agree with her actions, regardless of her motive. Even if a child wasn't involved, this is all kinds of ugly. I cried the whole time reading this post. She must be missing the part of the brain that separates 'decent' human beings from the sociopaths.
    I only hope she is capable of showing her own children love and support, so that they don't grow up to be as facktarded as she is. Too bad this isn't something Child Services could take them away for. -_-

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  65. I can only pray for the kids of "ghoul girl" and her dim husband. That kind of petty rage and hurtfulness shows the tone they have set in other parts of their lives and in how they teach their kids about the world. Go hug your kids - and then, go find the kid in their class who seems really pissed off...and ask if they want a hug. (I know, not very PC - but these are the kids who need someone to look at them. To acknowledge their experience...so maybe they don't think taunting a dying girl and her family is OK.)

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  66. It is really had to pray for someone who is so awful. It is TRULY hard when people are dying and this woman cannot see beyond her own nose that she is hurting people and hurting her own family by such childish, hurtful, awful actions.

    awful.

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  67. "One thing's for sure, more anger isn't helpful. But it feels so good. That's what she said. Literally. That's what she said - The Rage felt good to her and it made her do awful things."

    The difference between her and the rest of us is that we get angry but don't act on it in this manner. We have that boundary and sense of what is right and wrong and don't let it go that far. Also, most of us have the boundary of not hurting those weaker than us and rather have empathy for them. So many people were angry reading this story and decided to use the anger for support. Sometimes anger is also what fuels change, when presented in a rational manner as opposed to something this tragic.

    Oh and I am angry, too. I would love to have friends who could mess with her in this manner. But I have that boundary and no friends...hehehe.

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  68. The little girl was NOT the target; the grandmother was. I'm not excusing what she did - I'm sure the little girl was horribly hurt by it. Petkov was AWFUL, no question.

    BUT...

    I'm trying really hard not to succumb to the kind of hate and anger that drove that woman to do what she did. I'm trying to remember that that woman is broken, and she needs help to get past whatever pain is in her that caused her anger at a simple mistake to get so out of hand. Let's not perpetuate hate and anger. The world would be a much better place if we use this terrible situation to remember that when we let our anger and hate affect our actions, the people around us suffer for it.

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  69. I read about this story yesterday and nearly lost my schmidt. I couldn't believe anyone would do something so cruel. But then I remembered that kind of cruelty happens every single day. It blows my f'ing mind and increases my instinct to lock my daughter in her room until she is 35.

    I love the idea of taco kicks for charity. Yes please! But I guess combatting evil with violence and hatred probably isn't the answer.

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  70. Oh, it does indeed take a villiage, ladies. I had not heard of this story, but it breaks my heart to hear of this innocent little girl, suffering illness herself, to be brutally traumatized by this hateful neighbor. And I too, find it hard to believe that this neighbor's apology means a hill of beans in the long run. I think she just doesn't want to be picked on herself. There has been so much in the news, over internet blogs, etc., about bullying lately, and I think feelings are mixed about how to best help the various situations. Basically--there are two camps I see. The "hate the sin, love the sinner" camp, and the "eye for an eye" camp. I don't know what's right, at the end. I don't know what to teach my children in this world. I want peace, above all else, for my children, and I want them to know that true justice exists. We live in an age where we see instant gratification being available in almost every situation. Those of us who are faithful to whatever religion, may also have faith that the more evil parts of society will get some kind of judgement in the end, but we all want something to happen NOW to fix society's ills, and to stiffle all the bullying. I think at the end of the day, you have to just love the crap out of your kids, show them not just that you love them as a parent "should" love their kids, but show them that you truly enjoy them, for all of their quirks, all of their annoyances, all of their triumphs and all of their not so finest moments. If we do this enough, I hope, maybe nobody will grow up to want to be a bully, or think bullying would ever be a good choice. Thanks for the opportunity to comment here...

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  71. I've been trying to understand what -in the world- is that woman thinking. What a horrible person, specially for someone who has two kids!!

    But I just can't. This is unreal to me as a mom

    How mentally broken is she for doing this to a little girl?

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  72. This has got to be the saddest thing I've heard in a long time. This woman is pure evil. I can't even believe she's a Mother - how can any Human Being do something like this??

    On the flip side, I'm thankful to know that there are so many of us out there that want to kick this snitch's behind.

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  73. WOW! I have absolutely so words for that woman. Just unbelievable.

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  74. She infuriates me and makes me so, so very sick.

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  75. Speechless...praying for that sweet little girl.

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  76. Dear Kate and Lydia,

    First, I've tried many times to respond to various posts, but your format makes it difficult for my obviously mentally challenged person. I actually have a wordpress account, logged in, and then when I attempt to use it, I'm told I don't own that site.

    Whuck? I'm LOGGED IN.

    So I caved for this post and am using my google account because Anonymous is Latin for "pussy assed bastard." It's just a thing for me. Y'know.

    Anyway I live in Michigan. Technically according to Michigan law I live in Detroit because I live within a hundred mile radius of the city proper. (even though I actually live in Lansing. It's a Michigan thing.) I can drive to Trenton in less than two hours. And after reading this I thought about it. But it's 9pm, and I'm not that healthy.

    It was HORRIBLE to see someone do that. HORRIBLE. If anyone had done that when I lost my son (and there was some online bullshit wherein someone told me Rhys was hiding behind Jesus, disgusted with me because I'm not Christian. I then told her to climb off her cross because we needed the wood for our bonfire and if she ever typed my child's name again I would hunt her down and make sure she could never type again.) I could not forgive. I could not be the bigger person that that little girl's grandmother is and forgive and move on.

    I couldn't. That woman lost her child, and will lose her granddaughter. That's not even getting into the tormenting and hatefulness towards a seven year old child!! I just...I want blood.

    I understand why the grandmother wants to get beyond it. Who knows how much longer she has with her grandchild? Life is short, and she's had too much pain in hers as is. I just hope that the taint of hate didn't touch that beautiful child too much. Her life should be one of love and light.

    And may those who tormented her and her grandmother be reborn as people with Huntingdon's disease until they have paid in full the pain they caused that family. That is Karmic balance.

    But for this life, baseball bats will have to suffice.

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  77. Btw...I think your son was born into the wrong family. In our family we were never allowed to "try."

    I kid you not. My dad LOOKS like Indiana Jones, but he talks like Yoda.

    And your son is awesome.

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  78. Rational thoughts are hard to put together... The thing that we "semi-ranting" moms can do is work hard to raise children who see what is wrong with that picture and how they can change the world with a loving heart. I love the Star Wars quote! You are succeeding with your children! They CAN change the world one sweet comment at a time! <3 ur rants!

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  79. unfortunately, there is alraedy too much hate and violence in the world. Don't get me wrong, I want to kick this "lady's" (and I use the term very very loosely) @$$.... but it won't solve the problem... the damage to the poor little girl is already done. I hope she enjoys what is left of her life, and can get past this person's inexcusable actions. Anyone messes with my kids or kin in this way... YOU"LL GET YOURS...

    Karma is a BITCH.... just saying...

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  80. All the other horrible things this woman did, aside....that apology does not cut it. I am so sick of people doing horrible things to other people and then thinking a couple of pretty words will make it all okay. Nothing is going to take away what that little girl and her family went through. It's not enough that she lost her mother. It is not enough that she is sick and dying. She has to deal with that woman and her issues too?
    That apology sounded like b*llsh*t. It sounded like she was tired of all the negative attention and just wanted it to go away now that she isn't having fun anymore. Too d*mn bad. I hope people keep giving you a hard time, I hope they continue to torment and harrass you. It's time for a taste of your own medicine.

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  81. The ones I feel sorry for are this woman's children...look what they have to live with day in and day out!!! what a VILE VILE VILE female of the human species. What was priceless was the little girls smile as strangers were singing to her!!! It is my hope that she knows that human beings are not like that female "thing" that live across the street from her home. The only way to protect our children from this is to teach them to love our neighbors as much as we do our families and if/when someone does this to us we do not want to return evil to them...just pity them for they are not human beings...they are just beings. The only reason this female is "sorry" is that it her vile treatment of a young innocent went public!! Can't she be charged with harrassment? I will keep Sweet, Precious Kathleen in my prayers! The female will get her "jus"t "reward" someday...hopefully sooner rather than later!!!

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  82. wow,really just when you thought the pinnacle of human viciousness had been reached....im sure wed all love to group together and paste her ass all over the street,lets just sit back and wait for karma *smug grin* most hated women ever? yes i think so.....

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  83. My thoughts and prayers are with little Kathleen and her grandmother, who have both suffered a terrible loss. As for the neighbor across the street, I will pray for her too. Though it will be a difficult prayer, indeed. This woman has ignited a flame of anger in me that has been dark for a long time. I live in Ohio, and would love to take a road trip to Michigan, so I could tell this woman just what I think of her. I don't know how she sleeps at night, knowing the pain and heartache she has caused. Like many people have said before me, there is a special place in hell for Jennifer Petkov, and there she will face the suffering she has inflicted on others.
    God Bless Kathleen and her grandmother, may His face shine upon them and ease their suffering. And may He cradle them in his loving and comforting arms.

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  84. fact is that while we & many other "feel" like kicking her butt for what she has done, we would not act on our feelings.

    obviously she was mad, and felt like lashing out, not caring about who she hurt, in fact wanting to hurt innocents for what she percieved to be a wrong done against her.
    there are just some ppl out there who don't care to even try and control their temper. it was not a moment of her loosing her temper it was a daily choice to give into being selfish and hateful and uncaring.

    scary part is she has kids herself.

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  85. Well, her name is Jennifer Petkov. She lives at 127 Detroit Street in Trenton, MI. I'm not posting her address to inspire someone to go out and get stabby (although I have entertained the thought of egging her house several times since this all came to light), but I would encourage the whole world to send her a million letters letting her know that she is now understood. Her name, her face, her husband's name and face are now known and they will never have peace on this earth so long as good men and women everywhere remind them that EVIL will not be tolerated. To answer your question about what is wrong with Jennifer Petkov, she is a psychopath. A human being without care or concern for children, the sick, the dieing, the least among us. According to her neighbor, Rebecca Rose (the little girl's grandmother), after Jennifer's infamous apology on camera, she yelled out in front of her house several times, "I don't give a F about who's dieing."

    http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/dpp/news/kathleen-edward's-family-speaks-out-about-taunting-

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  86. Aw, wow. I actually hadn't heard of this story before reading your post this morning. It made me angry, too, and while you're probably right about the updated well-measured response, I think it's a completely normal reaction, especially for parents. What gets me most is that this really was not bullying. I picture bullying as one child to another stealing lunch money, calling names--none of that is good either, but it's something else entirely for an adult to behave in such a horrific and ugly way to a child (and add to the fact that this child just lost her mother and is herself dying just adds to the monstrosity of the situation). This woman, at the very least, should be hit with charges of harassment and even hate crime. In that video, her "apology" didn't seem at all sincere, which also really bugs me.

    BUT...I have to say, I am AMAZED at your son's response to the situation. The fact that it was a Star Wars quote makes me chuckle (because we have major Star Wars fans in our house as well), but seriously, from a five-year-old, making the connection to how sad and messed up this woman must really be to have behaved in such a way...wow. That's so inspiring to see past the obvious and look at situations on a deeper level. With his perspective, I really just feel sorry for how ugly this woman must be on the inside. :-(

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  87. Unfortunately, this isn't over...apparently the woman has been arrested and charged with attempted assaulted with a dangerous weapon (her car!!!) and reckless driving!!!!
    http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/dpp/news/local/woman-who-taunted-kathleen-edward-is-arrested_jennifer_petkov_20100915_dk

    This woman is absolutely crazy~

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  88. I'm really sorry that this icky story is what led me to your cool blog. :P I saw the story on national news and went googling and found you :) lol argh...i'm still just jaw-dropped over the evil she committed. I don't know why sigh, i suppose there IS worser things ? but from a MOTHER,...i don't know....and in that last vid. you can tell she's not really remorseful at all...she's only attempting to say something because of how angry the world is and her hubs losing his job etc... i do pray she can be truly remorseful and turn it around though. I'd hate to live w/ something like that on my conscience. how does she sleep at night?

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  89. This beautiful little girl lives not too far from me in MI... When I read about her situation in the Ann Arbor newspaper I was instantly heart broken. People are so cruel and what they did was wrong.

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  90. Just an update, I couldn't find anything more recent than Nov. 30th, but her husband lost his job, and she is facing 4 years in prison for trying to run down a neighbor in her car. The next hearing was set for Dec 3rd but there weren't any new updates yet. She also lost custody of her kids. I wonder if she feels like her ass is raw. I remember this story and it made me sick, I followed it for a few days, but this is going to follow this woman FOREVER!!! And Kathleen will not be better...my heart breaks...I'm glad you lost you cool here, we should all lose our cool when a kid is being tormented, especially by an ADULT! How does she sleep at night?

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  91. This woman is horrible and your post brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for venting here.

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  92. Omg! That poor little sweet angel! How could someone do that...To a child?! I think about this all the time, how could anyone hurt a poor defenseless child? That woman needs the holy crap beaten out of her! This is just unbelievable!

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  93. I live in Maine and hadn't heard this story until a couple of weeks ago on the news when Kathleen passed away. That was so horrific and I absolutely do not blame you for expressing your anger at the time this occurred. For this psycho to do such a thing to a child deserves soooo much more than what she dished out. Karma baby, Karma...what goes around, comes around. She will most definitely get hers some day...Hopefully Kathleen's grandmother gets to witness the pay back!

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