Friday, December 2, 2011

The Grand Hooker Experiment (That's Not Porny At All)

This week we posted something called The Domestic Enemies of the Low Income Mom. It was about Tara, a mom works full time, while pregnant, and raising two kids with her equally awesome husband. They're really broke, despite how hard they work.

That day, people started emailing us, asking for Tara’s address so they could send her something. A business called 2 Chix even asked us if they could send her some free maternity stuff.*

And other people emailed us. Telling us how much they appreciated reading Tara’s story because it was their story too. And like Tara, they’re doing the best they can and loving their kids to pieces and trying to find absurd schmidt to laugh at as much as possible - because what else can you do?

Isn’t that all of us? Isn’t that what all of us do? Isn't that why we're all here on this ridiculous time-suck of a blog? Let’s remember that when we started this thing, Kate had just gotten down-sized and Lydia was starting to get all crazy and post-partumy. We were NOT ok. We’ve both been broke. Lydia spent 5 years living in Section 8 as a kid. We know what it’s like to struggle. To have jobs taken away from us.

The comments and the emails we got made us feel like we wanted to do something. So we’re blatantly copying, I mean - taking a page from another blogger (the amazing Momastery), and trying something. It’s an experiment of trust.

That's complicated for us. Lydia trusts everyone. Kate trusts no one. Lydia believes most people are pretty much awesome. Kate thinks most people should avoid making eye contact with her and go away. Lydia is often sadly disappointed. Kate is occasionally pleasantly surprised.

Here’s the dealio. We trust that everyone who gets on board this crazy train is doing it because they get it – that sometimes bad circumstances eat away at good people. That sometimes little things can make a big difference.

If you need some help this holiday season, email us at:
HelpingHookers@RantsFromMommyLand.com, which has to be the best email address in the history of ever. If that's not enough, here's a lovely picture for you made by -- of course -- Amy of The Famed Pregnant Chicken. [Editor's Note: Oh! We've figured out that, if we turn it into a t-shirt, it'll look like you're getting booby-grabbed by many, many hands. Awesome. -Kate]

You don’t have to explain anything. All you have to do is leave us your name and your mailing address. And what stores are near you. We trust that if you ask us for help, that you’re not just pretending you need it so that maybe you’ll get some free stuff.

If you feel like helping another mom this holiday season, email us at the same place. Ask us to match you up with someone. We’ll send you a name and a mailing address and then you send them a gift card. Walmart, Target, Giant, Safeway, CVS, Toys R Us. No money. Just a gift card. Whatever you can spare. We trust that if you say you want a name to be matched up with, that you’ll actually follow through and do it.

Can you imagine if you couldn’t buy your kid anything for Christmas and then you got a $20 gift card to Toys R Us? Your baby would go from having nothing under the tree to having something. We have no idea if anyone will respond to this. If we’ll 10 emails total or a 1,000. We have no idea if we’ll be able to help anyone. Or if we'll royally screw this up.

But we have a chance to help other moms, even in a small way.

This thing starts now. It ends December 20th (which we guess is the last day people can safely mail stuff before Christmas). And for the record - you don't have to celebrate Christmas to get in on this mofo. Of course not. We just thought that made a good end date.

Let’s see what happens...we'll start pairing you up this weekend! Woot!

xo, Lydia & Kate

*Tara hasn’t returned our emails. She may have had her baby. Or decided that gifts for her kids was more than important than internet this month. Or maybe some of the negative comments scared her off. No matter the case, we heart her, we're grateful to her and hope she’s doing well.



(c)Herding Turtles, Inc. 2009 - 2011

114 comments:

  1. Oh even yesser. And I want that t-shirt!

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  2. Thank you for doing this, especially after all the crap I hear that Tara got for her excellent article. This year has been especially hard for my family -- foreclosure, bankruptcy, unemployment, depression. I have felt such deep shame and guilt, even though right now the only assistance we get is WIC. But we have loving family that has opened their home to us and are helping us through this rough patch. It can be humiliating to move back home in your 30s, but now our 1-year-old is surrounded by a plethora of relatives every day who shower him with love. He never lacks for someone to make him a special snack, to read a book to him, to soothe and rock him back to sleep when he wakes from a nightmare, or to play with him. This may be the worst time in our lives financially, but because of our baby and our family, it is also one of the best times, if that makes any sense. I realize not everyone is so lucky, and this is a great project to help them. Merry Christmas hookers!

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  3. Awesome Sauce... XOXO!

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  4. I am always amazed by the power of women wanting to help others! Thank you ladies!

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  5. Ack! Tried the email and got a message that it was invalid! Whuck?

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  6. Super awesome...and for the record this counts as your service project for christmas....check that off the list!

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  7. What a fantastic idea. Good for you!

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  8. Best idea ever! I love this one. If I can manage to scrape an extra $20 together, I'm sending you an email to be paired up with someone who truly needs help this Christmas!

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  9. Laurie,
    I pretended I was technologically gifted and fusesd with the email address...i *might* have also accidentally hacked into some weird alternate universe. The point being, if you're still having trouble, email us at our regular address and we'll get you hooked up! Lydia_and_Kate@rantsfrommommyland.com

    Get it?? Hooked up?? Because we're hookers...never mind.

    xoxo Kate

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  10. Love this idea, and I second the amazement with the willingness of women to help other women -- it's probably the thing that makes me proudest of my gender. However, I might suggest that you give an option for HelpingHookers to send to you and for you to send out to the Hooker-in-Need, as some recipients may want to protect their anonymity. Just a suggestion, not trying to make things more complicated. Ok, yes I am.

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  11. You guys are awesome!! What a beautiful way to turn some ugly reactions into a truly positive endeavor. God bless you.... hookers!!

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  12. Well I know the email address worked last night because I emailed them about Egiftcards being a good idea for this :D and while Kate spelled my name wrong when she replied I'm forgiving her because her response was the most awesome thing I've ever read in the universe! LOL She said:

    "Amazing! Like, amazing like a glitter-coated unicorn. Grazing in a field of candy corn in Mardi Gras colors. With a tiara."

    That's just hilarious :D and I am so stealing that! LOL

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  13. Oooh! Make it a T-shirt and use the proceeds to help out the unmatched needing-help hookers! I'd wear it & bonus: my email addy will be landing in your inbox shortly.
    You girls are the best.

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  14. This made me cry - I am so happy you are doing this. As someone who approaches the world more like Kate, kudos to you all for taking the leap and the time to make this happen. Thank you also for making the points you did today without being preachy (no small feat). I was shocked at the anger Tara's post triggered (in a small minority) and feel so gratified to see kindness carry the day. We've all "been there" in some way, shape or form - whatever "there" is for each of us. Thanks for ALL you do - you all are rock stars (or rock star hookers to be exact)!

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  15. Sign me up. I can find some spare to send along to someone who needs.

    I'd rather that $20 go to someone who could use it than to yet another piece of crap to go under my tree that is just going to be broken in three days.

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  16. You hookers ROCK!! I'll email you today xoxo

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  17. Also, I hereby declare this the Happy Helping Hookers Headquarters!

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  18. I just have to say I love you guys. You're amazing and awesome and have saved my sanity countless times. I go from feeling like a huge parenting fail, to feeling as if I am among brethren. Last Christmas we couldn't give our son Christmas, family and family friends chipped in and our baby had Christmas. This year doesn't look too great either. And it's complete suckage that we don't qualify for aid because hubby is in the National Guard and his paychecks are never the same, but they don't care. can we also say that i live in an expensive area (with my rent going up..yay..right?) and my rent takes all but MAYBE 100 out of one of my hubby's civilian job paychecks and so we were 200 over, and the lady didn't even take my rent into consideration. *sigh* it's always comforting knowing I'm not alone. I'll willingly do without so my kid can have a roof over his head and food in his tummy. But occasionally I'd like to be able to shower him with gifts because he deserves it.

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  19. What an amazing thing to do! And I, too, want a t~shirt!

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  20. I would love to do this!! Things are tight this week, but next week I should be able to do it no problem. We have struggled to make ends meet with one income. I stay home with our three kids, one of whom is severely autistic and mentally challenged. The past two years have not been easy. However, I've learned about compassion and how bad things can happen to anyone at anytime.

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  21. Scary Mommy did this for Thanksgiving, most awesome thing ever! Love that you're doing this! I too can relate to Tara, I grew up like that. I admire her hard work.

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  22. I thought of this very thing when I read the article, and thought of emailing you to suggest setting up some kind of mass take-a-20-leave-a-20 matchup - and then I thought, no, that's too much work to ask ANYONE to do during the holiday death spiral. And you hookers did it anyway! You are my heroes. I'm signing up.

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  23. I'm so in! I started following Momastery after she completed this fantabulous exchange and read that Tara has gone offline until the new year in order to celebrate this time with her family. I am happy that I'll get to be a part of something so awesome here in Mommyland! You hookers rock! (and I really want the groping booby Helping Hooker tee shirt...there are no words for that! :)

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  24. HI! My name is Jenifer, I have to post under anonymous because it wont let me any other way. . . But I digress, I LOVE this idea! Not only do you hookers help moms everyday by letting us know we are not the only ones cleaning crap off the ceiling, you're willing to dig in your own pockets and help those less fortunate. . . .I will be sending you an e-mail soon to be a "Helping Hooker" too! love you guys!!

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  25. You should sell the shirts and use the proceeds to fund more mommies! I would totally buy one!

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  26. Also, THIS is why in the third world, they give all the aid money and micro-loans to the mommies and grandmas. They know what to do with it.

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  27. I'm so in! I began following Momastery after the exchange happened and read the wonderful, inspiring comments that the ones who participated left on the blog. I ugly-cried. Tara has gone offline until the new year to spend time with her family and enjoy the holidays. I'm happy to be a part of an exchange like that here in Mommyland. You hookers are whucktastic!! P.S. I'm not really anonymous...google just decided that my account didn't have posting privileges here in Mommyland!! My name is Jill and I'm a hooker. :)

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  28. Another ashamed low income momDecember 2, 2011 at 9:30 AM

    This is awesomesauce after the article with Tara. The timing of both are beautiful. I too am married with a kiddo and with another on the way and BROKE. It's never a place I thought we would be, and have never dreaded the holidays like I have this year and the last few because of the cost involved.

    My daughter is clothed and wonderful and smart. She knows her presents often come from the good-will, and even at 6 is totally okay with someone elses used toys as her new gift.

    I wonder if some of the nasty comment makers Children would respond the same way to opening a used toy at Christmas?

    Ok, no more ranting from me. Love you guys, even if this doesn't work, your heart for others is a great gift.

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  29. Love love love this! I wish I could scrape together some $ if I can... I will email ya, STAT!

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  30. Well done, ladies....well done....you make my heart smile.

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  31. Aw. Kate and Lydia. Hookers with a heart. Maybe they will make a Lifetime Original Movie about you and Tori Spelling can play one of you.

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  32. This is an awesome idea! I'm at work and don't have access to my gmail and I don't think that my job would appreciate me emailing what appears to be hookers! LOL! I am by no whealthy, but I would love to do something to help another mom. :)

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  33. I love this idea! I wish I could help this year but extenuating circumstances prevent me from being able to donate financially. Please continue to do this, and maybe next year I will have the extra cash to be able to help out. This year all my family and I have to donate is our time.

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  34. Epic movement!
    And yes, put that on a shirt

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  35. been there and want to help like someone did for my family at Christmas time. Pay it forwards. LOVEing this idea.

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  36. You guys are truly awesome! So many of us are in a similar situation as Tara, and its so tough for us to ask for, let alone get any help. It hurt me to know that I can't get my kids the things I think they need, let alone the basics. Love you guys and your blog! Its one of the few indulgences I have :)

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  37. Oh this is the most awesome idea! And I'd buy that t-shirt, too.

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  38. Fuchsia said:

    Awesome! This can help so many mommies give their kids a little something this year.

    I feel blessed this year to not be one of the askers. Three years ago my husband got sick for a year (!) and lost his job. We have been caught in the cycles of illness, unemployment, poverty and depression ever since. We are almost at the light at the end of the tunnel and this year christmas won't suck! If I can scrape together $20 I really want to be able to pass our good fortune on to another mommy who is were I was last year.

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  39. Why do you want to make me cry twice this morning? Rude. Rude, rude hookers I love like crazy.
    I had many a Christmas growing up only made possible by the kindness of strangers. The only way to pay that back is to pass it along.
    You girls make me proud to be one of you.

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  40. This.is.AWESOME! Sign me up...well, I'll be sending you an email. I can totally spare a giftcard!

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  41. Hey, Pamala, I was checking into e-gift cards and at least at Wal-Mart and Target, their site says e-cards can only be used online. I fear that some folks who need help may not have the time to wait for something to be shipped to their house. Do you know some way around the policy? Or stores that DO allow e-cards to be used in-store?

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  42. By doing it this way, those who need help may actually ask for it! The net grants a sense of anonymity so it's easier to admit you need a gift card to give the kidlets a Christmas... or groceries. People always say "there's no shame in asking for help", but it's HARD to do. This is a fabulous idea. I think it's going to be more successful than either of you could have imagined.

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  43. What a great idea!

    I grew up with a single mom, she worked 2 jobs for a while, we were section 8 for many years & although it embarrased her to take the help, even had Food Stamps for a few months. We were never without necessities, I can't imagine how she managed that, but it sucked to not have some of the cool stuff other kids had and I'm ashamed to say that I was embarrassed at times of our family.

    Now I am middle class & while we aren't swimming in money by any means, I'm happy to say I bought my mom a house, my grandma, single- mom-sister, niece & nephew are living there too. And we bought my also-single-mom-sister-in-law a car! It brings me great joy that I've been able to help all of them.

    I give to St.Jude, my quilty group makes quilts to auction & donate to other kid related organizations, and I prefer to donate stuff directly to shelters in my area rather than take to goodwill where they sell them. So this direct matchup is right up my alley!

    I'm in! Will email from my computer this morning.

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  44. PLEASE make the T-shirt!! Pretty please!!

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  45. This is such a wonderful idea. I can't help, but I wish I could. I am broke as a joke but thankfully we were able to set money aside for Xmas earlier in the year. I can't imagine not being able to buy anything for your kids or not getting a Christmas tree. I hope you ladies are able to help lots of people.

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  46. Ada I must have missed some of that.. I know ToysRUs said they could print it out and take that to the store, and another one said you could even just show the email on your smart phone but I don't remember which one...

    I just thought that maybe it would be faster to get the cards to the other person that way so they could buy something sooner.. oops. :(

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  47. Ok it may be partially the pregnancy hormones but this whole thread is making me cry. My hubby and I have been so lucky to have a giving lovinG family to help us get on our feet and keep us from living with our 1 year old in a cardboard box. I am lucky that I am now in a position where I can help someone else and have already sent an email volunteering to do so!

    Just so heart warming thanks everyone this has made my day.

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  48. I have five daughters and the past two years has been bad. People tend to forget that the youngest was born 7 years ago when things were better and we had insurance and jobs. I have a part time job this year and hubby is going to school and we are hoping that next year will be better.I too have kids who don't care if their gifts/clothes are second hand (thank God) and I too wonder if those who have issues with me for my family size can say the same.
    So glad to see these who can help and hope to be a helper myself in the next couple years. -N-

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  49. I loved Tara's post - I hope she didn't get scared off. You go girl. What a great idea K & L to do this! Wish I could participate. Maybe if the in-laws come through with their annual christmas $ :) Kim in MT

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  50. YAY!
    Linked to this on my blog! I am so glad you're doing this :)

    http://thenewmomontheblog.blogspot.com/2011/12/you-may-be-right-i-may-be-crazy.html

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  51. once I read this and realized I didn't actually have to become a real hooker to help anyone I felt very relieved. Phew!

    Anyhoo - super awesome idea!!!

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  52. This is an absolutely amazing thing you hookers are doing!!! At the moment I don't have the $20 to spare (because I'm a jackwad that blew up our Visa for Christmas) but when the hubby gets paid again I am hopefully going to work some magic to find that $20 to donate.

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  53. I did something like this with the Bloggess last year. What we did is buy GC. We didn't mail them, because it takes too long. Instead we'd purchase a gift card amount and the store, say Target for example sends the recipient the link to the code to use the amount on line. I know that Walmart has free shipping to the store, so that's the best one I believe. And target does free shipping over $50.

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  54. You Hookers just made me cry. Because EVERYONE should have a happy holiday. I don't care which one it is or if you choose not to celebrate one, no one should have to struggle like the brave and powerful women (and men)who just want a little something for their family (you know, like a roof, food, a little something between your skin and the elements). This blog has helped me so much over the past two years that I have been reading. There are days that I might not have been able to get through and days that I was worried I might end up on the 6 O'clock news. I don't always agree with everything you put on here (how boring would that be?) but I so look forward to reading it. Thank you for that. You ladies have been a gift to me. So, I'll be emailing you for an address. We don't have much, but at least we have enough. (And since my local grocery is offering double gas points for gift cards right now, it's a total win for me!)

    Oh, dear, I hope that isn't Scroogish of me to be getting something out of this? ;)

    ~Cat

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  55. I don't have children, which is all the more reason to help a family that does. SO glad that a friend posted this on her FB page. Let's help people out, y'all. (And the T-shirt is awesome.)
    -Beckster

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  56. I wish I could help, but I'm in between. Living with my mom (medical reasons I can't drive or work right now), lots of medical bills, had to take food stamps to ensure that my kids have food since my mom is a single mom also and will struggle if she tries to feed us. They will have Christmas thanks to her, but unfortunately I can't help this year, hopefully next!

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  57. You know... you two aren't hookers... you are real life angels

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  58. This is incredible.

    I'm one of six kids. Single Momma. We were on food stamps and welfare for a few years while she was in college to get her degree. We've always appreciated the basics, and every single Christmas and birthday, there were wrapped gifts for us. May have been a 12 pack of soda, socks, thin mints, pencils - but we had gifts.
    I can't imagine what Momma went without in order for us to have.

    Now that I have a great job, as does my husband, I prefer to give back. To help those who need it.

    You should have mail from me ;)

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  59. Ok, reading some of these posts from low income moms have brought tears to my eyes. I applaud your bravery. We are truly blessed and I would love to help someone else have a merrier Christmas.

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  60. My heart has grown three sizes because of this.

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  61. I want to be a Helping Hooker. This is an amazing idea and I would totally like to help. Do we just send an e-mail to you to volunteer?

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  62. Maybe if I get that t-shirt my husband will get jealous and MOTIVATED to touch them himself. LOL!

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  63. This is absolutely amazing! It is a shame some people commented the way they did and as I said in my e-mail my 1 year's Christmas has all been acquired from local consignment sales. All of his "new" clothes and toys are actually used but money has been tight around here and honestly I don't think he is old enough to know the difference. My hubby works two jobs and I work part time so we can make ends meet. I thank my lucky stars we have never had to choose between basic utilities or food. This is a wonderful idea!

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  64. What an awesome idea...and I would have loved to give but oh darn, I got fired today....

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  65. Oh, I am so in. I love to help my fellow hookers!

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  66. As a kid, me and my six siblings were always on some kind of charity list. The kindness of strangers made it possible for us to have Christmas dinner and little presents when it wouldn't have otherwise happened. I would love to help that happen for someone else! Sent the email. I really hope this works!!

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  67. Count me in Hookers! Just sent you an e-mail and am thrilled to help!

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  68. I didn't read the other one, for fear my 3rd tri hormonies would make me pass out from the hiccuping ugly cry;0) Just read it anyways. Bc I was ALREADY crying from THIS post! What a WONDERFUL way to respond to all this. I, myself, spent MANY a financially thankless(albeit most rewarding in other ways) year as a daycare teacher. And a couple years ago.... We wouldn't have made it without my family behind us. How BLESSED we were to have them! So many do NOT have someone to count on, except themselves. This year.... The blessings being rained upon us are SO MANY, I can barely see the sky! I feel SO thankful and I feel even more so the heartbreak of families in need. I have been there. I know the suckfest of deciding which bill to pay, and trying to clothe a little one from the used stores and Goodwill. Bc it's not the used stuff that wakes you up at night. It's the fear that it will all fall apart, and not even used stuff or WIC can keep a roof over your families' head. That fear of being on the precipice all the time. SO MANY of my friends and family and neighbors are suffering right now. This is hard times. Hard times I've never seen in my lifetime. And it takes no prisoners- doesn't matter if you're hard-working or not. It can still get you. Ladies, I am SO IN. THANK YOU for being such AWESOME SAUCE and GIVING Hookers!!!!!!

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  69. Fabulous post!!! And LOVE the t-shirt idea!!!!

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  70. I nominated my best friend at momastery .. she was UNBELIEVABLY taken care of by TWO unbelievable monkees...and i'd like to, if i can, nominate myself today. things are so tight, i'd like to do something for my husband for christmas. however, as he is the one who earns the money and asks for nothing in return.. i'd like to surprise him with anything this year. . i thank you more than you know for giving me this opportunity ..
    starsanner23(at)yahoo(dot)com
    star

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  71. this is amazing!!! this is something that i will get behind 100 percent!! expect an e-mail from me!!!!!

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  72. This is amazing of your guys! I've been on both the helping and receiving end of Christmas and not only does this project kick @$$ but so do you guys <3

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  73. If I am able to scrape it, will do. Things here are day to day and we wish everyone the best this Christmas. Thank God for Hookers like you who love beyond your means! And the tshirt is brilliant. :)

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  74. What a wonderful idea!!!!!
    You ladies have brought tears to my eyes

    God Bless You wonderful human beings x x

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  75. posting as anonymous because my blogger account is messed up. Anyway, this is nancy and I'm very pleased to say I'm in! I woul dlove to help someone and I know someone who needs thehelp desperately. So, while I'm not asking for myself, I sure am asking for my sister. She makes less than $20k a year (and is told it's still too much for food stamps!),has two daughters and two 5-year old (one autistic and the other with aspergers and ADHD) boys living with her in a 2-bedroom house. She would never ask for the help herself, but if anyone is deserving of a little help, it's her. Of course I'm partial.
    You guys are great- what a wonderful way to spend and celebrate the holiday. Merry Christmas!

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  76. I posted above and accidentally confused Tara with the writer of the Momastery blog!!! I'm sorry Tara!! I hope you weren't scared off by the ignorance of some people. You wrote from the heart and didn't deserve the ugly.

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  77. I loved her post too and hope she wasn't scared away. You guys are so great for attempting this. I hope it doesn't make you crazy(er). xoxo

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  78. This is an amazing idea. I truly hope some awesome mommies get the help they need. I definitely understand Tara's struggles. I'm a new mommy, 3.5 months to be exact. I was laid off in October 2010, and still haven't found a job (was super fun seeing interviewer's faces when this big wobblebottom walked in 9 months preggo) and best of all I live in a RV. I get food stamps and my unemployment runs out Sunday. I feel like giving up. Seriously. BUT in all honesty, Monday I started reading RFML and I really don't think I've been this optomistic or cheerful since before I was pregnant. Thanks Hookers!

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  79. You ladies are wonderful. The hearts of others is amazing. This year my kids are going to have Christmas because of their amazing family. We've struggled over the last few years and this year seemed to top it off after getting the bills from last year's medical emergency and following w 3 more medical issues- all requiring major surgery. When will it end?! Going from fairly stable to never having enough to do just the basics is the worst guilt ever as a parent. Having birthdays and holidays surround those hard times is like failure standing in your face with a megaphone. Worse is knowing that I have a fairly good career and normally make good money before all the medical expenses and regular bills for the basics for which we are completely behind...left wondering if I can't make it now...when will I?

    Just knowing there are amazing and wonderful people out there gives me hope that the state of the human race may not be so dire. Thank you to all the ladies with the positive comments not only here but on Tara's post as well.

    I cannot help financially right now, but I'm sending mail to offer my assistance in anyway possible (perhaps there are moms/dads out there looking for jobs and need help w resumes, any email administration I can offer, etc.-- I've got loads of resources and am in IT for work...and I'm crafty- not just like beastie boy crafty but I'm that too :)). I would love to help anyone I can.

    Thanks,
    Amanda

    Thank you

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  80. thanks for making it easy for me to do something kind and maybe even make someone really happy. most of us have struggled or are 1 generation, friend, job away from tough times.

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  81. You ladies are wonderful to say the least..this has got to be one of the most selfless things I have seen/heard of. I would help if I could but I am actually on the other side for once in my life. I am a single mom of 2 barely getting by and I have spent countless hours stressing/crying about what I am going to do for Christmas for my children. My friend saw this blog and forwarded it to me. Even if we are not chosen to help I still want to thank you ladies for all that you are doing! XOXO
    -B. J.

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  82. I'm in.

    And THIS is what makes women the rules of the universe.

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  83. Two words: thank you! Life has not been as easy as it could be for my family for a few years. And asking for help, and accepting it, has been hard for a multitude of reasons but I've learned that for my children I'll do anything. So, thank you, God bless, and I hope you guys have a wonderful Merry Christmas!

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  84. Amazing! What you are doing is wonderful. We had just enough to buy for our children this year and no one else. It's the first time my husband and I won't be buying for each other. We don't have extra to give, but I hope at some point we are able to help others too! So glad those of you that are able are helping to make Christmas special and miraculous for others!!

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  85. Ok, So I just stumbled on this blog while searching for something completley unrelated. But in the last hour I have already laughed and cried and said "Fuck, yeah!" like about 14 times and some of those times were outloud but it's cool because my kids aren't around but even if they were I would have said it anyway because, let's be honest here, my kids are the ones at school who teach yours the dirty words. Sorry about that.

    Anyhow, I can't even process all of this awesomeness yet. it's like a milliondy two times awesome. I'm a mom. I'm single. I'm newly divorced. I have lived with no food. I have beer on Saturday morning instead of coffee and I have told my kids not to drink from mommy's special water bottle. I've had poop in my hair and other peoples kid's poop in my hair and I've survived for months on 2 hours of sleep and have been known to watch iCarly all by myself when my kids are gone.

    And as a bonus...I have OCD. Severe OCD. Which I manage with my witch doctor and my pills and my entirely inappropriate sense of humor.

    Moral of the story: I will email you. I don't know if I have anything to give but maybe I could call up someone's ex or ex's girlfriend and curse them a blue streak (because I may or may not be REALLY good at that...). Or maybe I could watch your kids so you can have a drink. The only thing I know I can do for sure is totally relate. And understand. And offer you a resounding "Fuck, yeah!"

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  86. God bless you, Hookers!! What a wonderful idea. :) This is one of the things that makes me proud to be a woman. Our ability to pull together & brainstorm some awesomeness is amazing.

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  87. The last two months have been awful. I feel like I'm going through a downward spiral and it sucks. Bad. I know it's not as bad as others-I am happily married and have two healthy kids, and I'm totally grateful. But crap beyond my control has been consuming our lives since the beginning of October. And sometimes I want to scream/cry/throw stuff. Or drink a bottle of something with alcohol in it. Thanks for doing this, and for letting me rant. You guys are awesome. :-)

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  88. I totally missed this last weekend, but I think I love you guys even more now that I used to. And that's a whole lotta love cuz sometimes you guys (and other mommy bloggers that I read) help me to keep my sanity. We're right in the midline of almost, but not quite needing help and unfortunately not having any extra to help others out. So I just want to thank you for what you're doing for all the other families out there. Connections are such a wonderful thing :)

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  89. Thank you for this. I know I am in a tough situation this year. Foreclosure, bankruptcy, job loss. All leading up to possibly no Christmas here. THIS is the kind of thing that makes us women the best thing ever! ;) I'm sitting here in tears because of your post some of the comments and just wanted to thank you. You may indeed be someone's Angel this year, hooker or not.

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  90. This actually made me tear up a little lol. My family is in the "hard time" phase and has been for, oh, ever??? But we always have just enough. Thankfully, I got my Christmas shopping done for my 3 kiddos already. Not a whole bunch, but enough =]. I will be sending an email. $20 can be alot to me, so I am sure it's alot to another person in need. And every little kid deserves a present under the tree, just as every parent deserves to see their face light up on Christmas morning. Loooove you guys and this blog!!! <3 Jayme

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  91. What a wonderful thing you ladies are doing, all of you! I for sure know what it feels like to struggle, and even though I don't have a lot to offer, I would LOVE to be a hooker if you are still in need!!! Every kid deserves a present at Christmas. Thank you SO much, LOVE!!!!

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  92. Ummmm yeah....count me in with the had to read this while hormonal bit...lol You B*tches are the BEST. My heart is FULL.

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  93. You hookers rock. I just sent an email for a hook-up. I hope you post an update soon.

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  94. Dear All,
    I emailed Kate & Lydia to report that my gift cards have been sent, and to offer to pick up another. Here is the auto-response I received:

    "Hi hookers...

    We want to help every mommy that we can, but as of right now, we have a LOT more people contactuing us that need help than are able to give it.
    If you've written to us asking for help, please know that as much as it breaks our hears, we may not be able to match you with someone.
    If you've written to us asking for a mommy to help, please be patient and we'll respond as fast as our feeble brains and fumbly fingers will allow.
    So far, we've matched up almost 2,000 mommies...we'll keep working on it, but we're asking for your patience and understanding.

    Who knew hooking would be so hard?"

    This breaks my heart, right along with Kate & Lydia, that they are falling short. If you are able, please consider signing up for another mama so that the goodwill keeps going. C'mon and let's do this thing!!

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  95. How would a person get involved. I am a single mom of 4 kids. I live in canada and nowhere near any family. I am not working and can barely make it paycheque to paycheque paying rent and all my bille. I have 2 girls ages 11 and almost 3, and 2 boys ages 4 and 5. my oldest is diagnosed adhd/odd and both my boys are on the autism spectrum. I dont often ask for help or to be included in something like this but im desperate this year as i have nothing for my kids for christmas.

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  96. I know someone who could use a helping hooker... how do I get her info to you?

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  97. I wish I could help! I always help other families in need. I have every year for the past 7 years-even something little like ordering an extra copy of HP when it came out for a kid in need. But this year is so hard on us. We barely have food money. I'm so glad others are helping and I'm sad I can't help out this year!

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  98. Helped Hooker in MNDecember 12, 2011 at 7:48 PM

    I would like to say THANK YOU first to Kate and Lydia for putting this all together, and I would like to ALSO say a BIG THANK YOU to the Anonymous Helping Hooker mommy of 2 in Knoxville! I can't tell you how much it means to me that someone I've never met cares so much! I will use it wisely and pay it forward when I am able! ((HUGE HOOKER HUGS!))

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  99. Dear Family From WI,
    I received your generous gift today that will go a LONG way in getting our four children a pretty awesome Christmas.

    I'm pledging now that when the new year comes and our finances even out that we will pay it forward in the same amount to the cause of your choice.

    Thank you Kate and Lydia for giving my family this opportunity to be so blessed by a family from far away.

    Love,
    Alana

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  100. Would it be possible to continue this after Xmas? I really want to pay this forward and I'd be willing to help a family who needs it even after the holidays.

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  101. To the generous giver from Richmond, VA.... THANK YOU! I love opening Christmas cards, the one with your Target gift card was a pleasant surprise. I am in tears. You have NO idea what this means to me! I serve a God who promises to provide. You are an answer to prayer. God used you to bless us and you don't even know us. I look forward to the day that I can return the blessing and "pay it forward." Because of you and a few others, we will be able to purchase gifts for our kiddos.

    Lydia and Kate, thank you for taking on this challenge and connecting others to bless families in need during the Christmas season. I thank you from the bottom of my heart!

    God Bless,
    Karen

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  102. I had never heard of your blog until today. I received a Target giftcard from a stranger in Missouri today who wrote "Happy Holidays from a Helping Hooker." I was so confused and wondering why a hooker sent me a gift card. ha ha After searching the internet over and over trying to find out what that meant, a friend of mine told me about your blog. After reading it I figured out that someone I know must have nominated me to be part of this project. I have since been sitting at my computer, holding this gift card, and crying my eyes out. I had just told my husband today (after taking my MIL to a chemo appointment for her recent breast cancer diagnosis...and cleaning up vomit for the past week because my two little ones have had a stomach bug this entire week) that I was feeling so down in the dumps. I was worried we wouldn't be able to buy our sweet babies (2 and 4) the couple toys they asked for for Christmas. I wanted to hide in my closet and not come out for the rest of the day...then I got this Target (my very favorite store) gift card from someone who doesn't even know me and I was overwhelmed with gratitude. Even though things are beyond tough for my family right now I know others have it so much worse...and to think that a stranger cared enough for me to share has me so emotional. I cannot tell you what this means to me. Every little bit helps so much right now. Even a note of support gives me the extra lift I need to keep on going! Thank you, thank you, thank you. God bless you! You have helped make this Christmas such a special one. I am still in so much shock. Blown away. Wow...

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  103. Lydia is my daughter and I am so proud of her, Kristin and Claire that I could bust!

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