Thursday, January 8, 2015

Happy New Year!

Happy new year everybody! This is a note explaining why the blog is going to be a little bit different moving forward. First off, I think I'm going to be losing a whole lot of you due to some changes at Facebook. Starting in this month (January 2015), they will begin charging pages for sharing their content. Since maybe 90% of my readers get here through Facebook, that's going to be a pretty big change.

The second thing is that I've really been struggling over the last year with how to write about my kids now that they're older. The bottom line is this, my kids are no longer at an age where it's cool for me to joke about them being little terror suspects anymore. I've written some pretty good stuff in the past few months but sadly, I don't think I can publish any of it. My kids would be embarrassed if the people that they know in real life (their classmates, or their friends' parents, or even their teachers) were to know such sweet, silly, or personal details. 

I spent some time talking to them over the holidays about how they feel about me blogging about our family. We discussed me quitting altogether and to my surprise, they thought that was a terrible idea. But we all agreed that we did not regret the choices that we'd made as a family to keep some things private.

When I started this blog with Kate five years ago, everything was different. I had never even read a blog before I started writing one. 
The only thing that Kate and I were ever really trying to do with Rants From MommyLand was to make ourselves, and maybe other people, feel better about the realities of being a parent. [Editor's note: I speak for tens of thousands of us who can tell you: mission accomplished. And thank you. xo -Guru] We also wanted to make sure that when the kids looked back and read the things we'd written in 10 years, that they would know that it was hard sometimes, but they would also know how much they were loved.

One of the unexpected gifts this blog has given me are the captured moments that might have otherwise been lost. And while this might sound morbid, I feel like if I were to die tomorrow, my kids would have a sense of who I was. I'm not trying to be melodramatic in saying that. My family has lost two mothers in the past 10 years and I've watched their children finish growing up without them. I helped raise one of them. Maybe that's why all of my favorite blog posts are those that capture us as a family at a particular moment.

In taking the time to consider what direction (if any) the blog should take moving forward, I kept coming back to that. What if Rants from Mommyland was just a very personal collection of snapshots of our weird, dysfunctional (and yet still pretty awesome) little family? What if I focused on those things that I was scared might be lost with time? What if I tried to write about the things I would want the kids to know if I died tomorrow?

That felt right. The more I thought about it, the idea that the blog would get smaller felt right, too. I'm contracted to do some sponsored writing in the coming year. I also have some pieces scheduled to be published in Parents Magazine (IN ACTUAL PRINT - WHAT?!) and in a humor anthology. But aside from that, Mommyland is going to be smaller and more personal. I should be publishing more stuff and it will probably all be stupid.

Thank you, sincerely, for reading this blog and being my friend on Facebook and for... everything


PS: That's the other thing. I'm not going to be Lydia anymore. It's just dumb. You all know I'm Julie. 

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